Are We Really Free!

Are we really free?

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                Modern times; Modern thought, yet living in hypocrisy.

                Democracy prevails; Democracy is the key, yet restrictions still lives.

                He does this; She does that, still a concern for the society that’s lazy.

                Oh what a pity, we don’t follow the order, because that’s the dream, it seems.

                Born a boy, be an engineer or auditor, it’s fixed.

                Or join the family business, you shouldn’t argue with this.

                Born a girl; Love, you are lucky to be born!

                So, go ahead and study medicine or do arts, that would be enough,

                Argue with this, and you’d be married off.

                *Society does a witty laugh*

                “Oh, I have an idea!” said an over-excited teen,

                “Follow the system or you’ll break your spleen!”

                “I’d love to live here; I’d love to study here; I’d love to work here!”

                “You’re required to a pay a small processing fees my dear.”

                “Oh, such a gifted voice you have, it’s sad you are doing a job” said every other aunty

                ‘Weren’t you the one to advice me that I won’t succeed and forced my parents for a job’ thought the young lady.

                “Come home by 9.” Said a concerned mom to her daughter,

                “But, why does he get to stay out the whole night.” She pointed her finger towards her brother!

                ‘Apparently, men are victims of rape’ society believes!

                “Raise them to respect women!”

                “Oh you are so weak, a guy doesn’t cry. Don’t be such a sissy.”

                ‘I’m a human, and we do end up being emotional at some point of time.

                But, why it is okay to be a tomboy but to be a sissy is not okay!’

                “He loves him. She loves her. He loves her. She loves him.”

                Wish love was this simple. But some believe it is unnatural.

                There’s a ban on spreading love, what’s tomorrow, it’s sophistical.

                One can’t have a say on what one should eat,

                Wait, was it mentioned that it’s a democratic nation we live in?

                Why throw the garbage in dust bin?

                Doing everything illogical and not calling it a sin,

                Well that’s something.

                Let’s see how the story ends;

                “Hey, I have an opinion!” shouted a common man.

                “Your voice will die, just like the others did.” Whispered thousands of men!

Oh, we are definitely free!

                Wars are fought; hatred is spread. Why is it necessary?

                Live in peace and come together, isn’t that what humanity is supposed to be?

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                This may not be a situation everywhere, but it is a major concern. Please don’t turn a blind eye towards these concerns. Development takes place by coming together, not by killing each other!

              Do let me know what you think of this. You are welcome to share it! Will be back with another post. Until then just LIVEyOURLIFE!

Suicide – Does it really help?

Screaming with some pain,
Singing my sorrow song,
I was going along,
Because, everyone drove me insane.
Never had I thought, my life would be such a mess,
With every turn, I get filled up with stress.
Why oh why, don’t we have a button to alert any distress!

It’s about time that I had confessed.

They say, “A friend in need is a friend indeed”.
So, I want you to listen, just once I plead.
You always have something to say,
But to hear me out, not even an heed you’d pay.

I hit rock-bottom years ago, when people started to ignore me,
I tried to fit in, because, people not doing that were tagged silly.
Every time I felt the urge to be funny,
They would look back at me, I swear, it was always scary.

Develop sense of humour, you said.
But, to insult someone’s dignity, and lose my respect,
These things are actually worse than death.
I’d prefer staying in hell, if humans don’t learn.
I tried to be perfect by not talking out about my depression,
But, by the time I understood the need to heal,
It had almost won.

Those tearless cries,
Those noiseless screams,
Dull was the feeling portrayed by every colour
And I felt the need to kill myself every other hour.

My dreams, my passion, were of no importance, I could see,
But to watch them being burned down alive, tore my soul
No one to talk to, no one to be with, being an introvert,
It was supposed to be my heaven.
But, this was a misery that I wish no one should face.

No other option felt better than to give up,
But just the day before I planned to leave this place,
Hope was given to me by the person I expected the least
She did look like a cold-hearted person, but her heart melted when she found her one,
‘Patience’ is a virtue that will give you a huge reward, I realized that day.
And hope is something, you should never abandon on the way.

Thus, my journey to a great life began.
With the love of my life who saved a soul from doing a horrid mistake,
Suicide is the worst option,
To get out of depression.
And to hang oneself or to tease others,
Is not considered as fun!


  Suicide, today has become a rising issue. It may seem the easiest option to end all troubles, but please before you do consider that, think about your family, friends or colleagues. They may hate you for taking such a decision. If you don’t have anyone to talk to, you can contact the helpline services that are available. If you are not comfortable with that, you can very well contact us. We will be very happy to be your friend and help you out in dealing in a crisis.

  To others, Mental health is a major health concern that has to be given equal or more importance to, since kids learn from adults. We as a society must make sure, everyone is happy and everyone is in peace both physically and mentally. So, if you can’t help a person in such stages, at least don’t tease them or torture them.

  Please, spread the message. There is always hope. There is always love. Spread Love, Spread Hope and Spread Life.

“…and then, I have nature and art and poetry, and if that is not enough, what is enough?”
― Vincent Van Gogh

  Do let us know your views on mental illness, stress management and depression.

  We will be back with another post. So stick around and #LIVEyOURLIFE.

Stand UP

Never Underestimate anyone

Dead leaves on the ground, chilly and breezy wind felt my face as I walked across some of my mates.

The whole group was shouting and laughing, being a human, curiosity filled a part of my brain.

A seemingly weak kid was being ridiculed on and picked upon; he unwillingly had a face, with an awkward smile on.

None could see that pain, that kid was going through just to join in on the fun.

Why would someone do that? I started to ponder.

But, everyone would call me a stupid for searching that answer.

All started to make sense as I observed the scene,

All that kid wanted was to be a part of a team.

Though for many, funny it may seem,

This is a reality, everyone chooses to overlook

Your manliness is judged, if you can’t handle, weak in their eyes you look.

As the group left, the kid was all left alone,

He tried to keep himself busy, but couldn’t concentrate, reasons still unknown.

He looked here and there, yet unable to pass the time,

He kept a face that was similar to a dead guy.

Nobody from that group could recognize the damage they caused and all they would do is deny.

I waited to figure out why he had gone through with that pain without any complain.

And I could see, all he wanted was to be accepted as a social person,

Being an introvert, he knew not how to act in front of people.

Being an artist, he knew not how to converse on useless topics.

Being a novice, all he knew was society considered someone to be of value, when somebody gives you respect or when you are a part of a so called well-reputed group.

The torture he had to go through to lock up his soul,

The silent screams he had to make, when he had to forgo his talents,

The strength he had to gather to lose his self-respect.

All that hurting just to cope up with some reckless bullying.

When will this society stand up against this terrorizing activity!

All they do is give it respect and make it grow.

I say, it is time we stand up and rise against this frightening activity which is still hidden inside many.

And give those bullies what they truly deserve.

Choose your company wisely.

Supporting a bully is worse than being one.

Laughing on that kid, is the worst thing one can do,

All he needs a little help to achieve his dreams.

Humanity means standing up for someone, not ridiculing them for fun.

 

BULLYING:

Don’t Stand By- Stand Up

Bullying is the use of force, threat or coercion to abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate others or in simple terms; it is just use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force them to do something. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power, which distinguishes bullying from conflict.

There are many types of bullying. If you are a person with authority, please be aware of these.

“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”
Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

Individual

Individual bullying tactics can be perpetrated by a single person against a target or targets.

Physical

This is any bullying that hurts someone’s body or damages their possessions. Stealing, shoving, hitting, fighting, and destroying property all are types of physical bullying.

Verbal

This is any bullying that is conducted by speaking. Calling names, spreading rumors, threatening somebody, and making fun of others are all forms of verbal bullying. Verbal bullying is one of the most common types of bullying. In verbal bullying the main weapon the bully uses is their voice.

Relational

This is any bullying that is done with the intent to hurt somebody’s reputation or social standing which can also link in with the techniques included in physical and verbal bullying. Relational Bullying is a form of bullying common amongst youth. Unlike physical bullying which is obvious, relational bullying is not overt and can continue for a long time without being noticed.

Cyber-bullying

Cyber bullying is the use of technology to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target another person. When an adult is involved, it may meet the definition of cyber-harassment or cyberstalking, a crime that can have legal consequences and involve jail time. This includes email, instant messaging, social networking sites (such as Facebook), text messages, and cell phones.

Collective

Collective bullying tactics are employed by more than one individual against a target or targets.

Mobbing

Mobbing refers to the bullying of an individual by a group, in any context, such as a family, peer group, school, workplace, neighborhood, community, or online. When it occurs as emotional abuse in the workplace, such as “ganging up” by co-workers, subordinates or superiors, to force someone out of the workplace through rumor, innuendo, intimidation, humiliation, discrediting, and isolation.

Effects

Mona O’Moore of the Anti-Bullying Centre at Trinity College in Dublin, has written, “There is a growing body of research which indicates that individuals, whether child or adult, who are persistently subjected to abusive behavior are at risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide”. Those who have been the targets of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low self-esteem and increased susceptibility to illness. Bullying has also been shown to cause maladjustment in young children, and targets of bullying who were also bullies themselves exhibit even greater social difficulties.

“They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you worship a different version of their God. They will hate you if you are spiritual. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. They will hate you when they see you happy. Heck, they will hate you while they post prayers and religious quotes on Pinterest and Facebook. They just hate. However, remember this: They hate you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you.”
― Shannon L. Alder

It is a major attributer for suicides and unwanted violence among many people. To know more, you can visit the following links:

List of suicides that have been attributed to bullying.

Suicidal Ideation- Dorothy L. Espelage, Ph.D., and Melissa K. Holt, Ph.D.

Peer Victimization, Cyberbullying, and Suicide Risk in Children and AdolescentsGianluca Gini, PhD1; Dorothy L. Espelage, PhD2

Some facts on bullying:

  1. Over 3.2 million students are victims of bullying each year.
  2. Approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day because of bullying.
  3. 17% of American students report being bullied 2 to 3 times a month or more within a school semester. Take a stand in your community by hosting a Bullying Policy Makeover event customizing your school’s anti-bullying policy.
  4. 1 in 4 teachers see nothing wrong with bullying and will only intervene 4% of the time.
  5. By age 14 less than 30% of boys and 40% of girls will talk to their peers about bullying.
  6. Over 67% of students believe that schools respond poorly to bullying, with a high percentage of students believing that adult help is infrequent and ineffective.
  7. As boys age they are less and less likely to feel sympathy for victims of bullying. In fact they are more likely to add to the problem than solve it.

Indian Government has given some importance in this case, but we still have a long way to go.

CBSC Board in India has given highest importance against Bullying compared to any other institutions in India.

I would love to do more research on this, but the data I could acquire is just limited. You can do your bit by standing up against it and helping that kid or person.

“If you’re insulting people on the internet, you must be ugly on the inside.”
― Phil Lester

I stand up for better human world. Please do give in your views for this problem as well as my poem, and do help spreading awareness about it.

Share this post so more people can be aware about it.

I will be back with another post, until then, please #STANDUPFORHUMANITY and LIVEyOURLIFE.

“If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.”
― Taylor Swift

Sources:

  1. Wikipedia
  2. PACER
  3. Do Something
  4. Telegraph
  5. Indian Bar Association

Love Yourself.

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Have you ever been knocked down so hard,
You were afraid to get back up?
Have you ever been betrayed so bad,
You were afraid to trust ever again?
Have you ever been backstabbed so harsh,
You were afraid to look back on them?
Have you ever lost something you love,
You despised to hear the word “love” ever again?
Have you ever been tortured like hell,
You had to give up who you were?
But, that is life.
There would be millions like you who suffer the same amount of pain you feel, but their cause is different. Every day you would wake up in the hope that today, everything will change, everything will be alright, idly sitting there and waiting for a miracle to happen, but guess what, it won’t.
Life is tough, it will squeeze you before you can taste what stuff out there feels like, only because you can learn to appreciate it.
I do believe miracles happen, but it ain’t gonna happen to you unless you fight for yourselves and for what you truly believe in.
If life were easy, then every other guy would just live life for oneself and that is not good. Because, every species on this planet, including you and this whole planet, matters, everything matters. A complete stranger, writing this post to you could be a reason why you matter.
I don’t know how hard/amazing your life has been, but let me tell you, you have a lot more to see.
You being alive, is a greatest gift you can ever receive, because believe me, even if the whole world gives up on you, God will always be there for you. Your parents will stand for you.
You are still alive and no matter how stupid this may seem, I believe in it:

“When everyone is against you; that is when you’ll need yourself the most.”

Love yourself to the point where you forget what love is because:

“You are your own worst enemy and your own greatest ally.”

You want to fight out in the world for what’s right, I bet that is not good, because first fight for what’s right inside you. Fight for the good in you and the good is what you shall see.
Love yourself and give yourself a good time.

“Peace outside can only be achieved when there’s peace inside.”

I’ve stressed a lot about this but you cannot be successful if “YOU” are not satisfied.
You matter.
So love yourself and love your life and eventually you’ll LIVE yOUR LIFE.
Let me know your views on this post in the comments section below and don’t forget to share it to your loved ones if you love it. I’ll be back with yet another amazing post, until then, BeLive in yourself and LIVE yOUR LIFE.

Believe: Not Judge

Caution: Before you read this post, make sure you have an empty mind and before you judge this post, make sure you read it till the end. Better yet, just cherish it.

I think it has been a weird mistake to have people with their own music careers going on and judging people because when they’re too critical, it affects them. They don’t want to be that honest, because they need to keep their appearance up.
~Neil Patrick Harris

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Remember the time, when you were a kid?

The tensions and worries you had were senseless to an adult.

What if I told you, the worries you have now are, well, senseless to everyone around you?

Every person has his/her own worries consuming them. They might check on you now and then if they love you or care for you, but that doesn’t mean you have to stick to their support.

You have your own life, why does it suddenly become important for a human being to care for someone or look into some other person’s life.

One could say, “Everything is connected.” So, it becomes a need then. Wanting to know every part of others life has become a need today, which has led to the high success rate of social networking websites.  We, as a human have habituated with giving more interest on others’ life, status that we have forgotten about us.

I’m not asking you to be selfish. I just ask you, if you are so concerned about others life, why do you spread hatred when they achieve or at least try to achieve something.

Stop judging their works if they did not ask you to do so. Some may have habituated in ignoring others opinion, but there are tons of people who have given up their hopes, their dreams just because of the people who judged them.

Success in life takes time. Happiness can occur anytime, but it is unto you. Start spreading love. If you can’t support them, then at least, get out of their way.

You may be a professional in what you do, but never underestimate and tease a beginner for his/her lousy performance. You were a beginner once too.

People in grief need someone to walk with them without judging them.
~Gail Sheehy

It’s all about the perspective. One really cannot determine what the other person has gone through to get where he/she is or the reason one can’t do that work. It could have been a piece of cake for you to do that work. It could be a piece of cake for an athlete to run a 100m, but that becomes a hectic task for a guy whose health is bad.

Stop judging the capabilities of individuals and start believing in them. We got here through team work not through individual hatred.

Start living. Stop hating.

Peace.

People are always judging you based on where you’re from, where you went to school, how you look, how you talk. But at the end of the day, you’re going to have to look into the mirror and accept who you are. It’s all about being authentic.
~Andre Carson

Will be back with another amazing post until then spread love and let me know your views on this in the comment section below and just LIVE yOUR LIFE and Believe!

Change

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.

~Alan Watts

Change helps you in discovering yourself.

One of the most overwhelming concept in philosophy has been Change.

What is change in the first place?

Basically, it is a difference in the state of anything and anyone on various situations. I feel it is just the transformation or development from time to time.

So, is it really necessary?

Well, it is.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
~Wayne Dyer

Why is Change necessary?

This is one thought that runs throughout my mind most of the time and when i come to think of it, it is actually simple.

Nature, itself, is constantly changing. Like the wind, it changes directions, we as a human. The “highly developed species” on the planet has to make sure they are in tune with the nature.

Everyday, since the dawn of time, we have made millions of mistakes. Well, as a human we are bound to making mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we should give up. If our ancestors had given up, there wouldn’t have been any sign of humans after the “Ice Age”.

We learned to adopt the nature and slowly tried to abuse it for our own good. Well, the result we are seeing today is not surprising. We are now aware of the mistakes we did, but that doesn’t mean we give up now. We should learn to come together and fight it.

Similarly, life may knock you down many times, and sometimes it will knock you down so hard, you will have lost the courage to get back up. But then is when you’ll need yourself the most. Break your own limits.

You might have done so many wrong things in life and you asked none, you feared none, you did it for your sake. You may not be aware of it but you forced yourself to do it even though someone else asked you do it. For once, if you could give a chance for yourself to change and listen to yourself to do good stuff, that is ultimately good for you and ignore the people who try to speak against it.

Your soul, it has seen many things, it has experienced many things. Giving it the same thing will lose the ultimate purpose of life. Exploring new things. Discovering new places. Experiencing the life like never before.

It may be in case of your job, education or business too. Following a single strategy throughout the lifetime may not be much helpful. Bringing changes can get you pumped up or can excite you.

To be honest, change is unavoidable. You are born, it is natural that you will grow. You may give up on your life, but your life will never give up on you! Because, it is the death, starvation, failure are the things we fear from. You want to fear from something, fear from fear. It is the most toxic thing there ever is. Trust yourself. Trust your dreams, your instincts. That ultimate change can get you inner peace. Because, if you won’t change, the world around you definitely will. The most things that stay adamant, end up destroying themselves the most. It is the river that is stagnant and the most insects breed there. Whereas, ocean is forever flowing, look it’s beauty!

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.

~Winston Churchill

Thank you so much for sticking with me, though this post took so much time, I’ll make sure the next one will be out sooner. Till then, hope this post may help you any possible way. Let me know your views on Change in the comments section below. Will be back with yet another amazing post, until then, just LIVE yOUR LIFE!

Being an Artist

Being an artist is such a bore, people say. But is it?

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No, not at all. We artists have our own world and there is a reason for it and it is simple. It’s the people around us. Today there are many artists struggling to make a name out there.
Why are they struggling?
There are tons of new pieces of art that is created everyday. Among them, few are famous. The rest, their art just fades away in no time.
Why does that happen?
As I said, it’s the company they keep.
To all those artists,
You are amazing. Yes, you are no matter what others tell you so. You are a messenger from the universe. You carry a message and that message comes from your soul to your masterpiece.
You can’t give up just because your friends, family, relatives or even a neighbour tells it is a waste of time.
Being an introvert myself, I’ve faced a lot. There are only a handful of friends who want to see my writing. The rest, they don’t bother with what I do. They have their own world.
I don’t have the rights to judge their lives, but reality, it’s just an illusion. So, why go after something that isn’t even real. Find your true friends and well, make sure you abandon the rest. We introverts are a paradox. We may love your company but we wouldn’t want to be with you for a longer period of time. Although we remain aloof, we can be the best friend to a person who really connects with us, but why? Because, we have no one except ourselves. So, a piece of advice to the friends of such introverts. Please, encourage their art, spread it. Get them in your group but make sure there isn’t much crowd because they get bored easily there. Help them feel what it means to be alive. But, make sure you have them some space, they’d appreciate it.
Being an extrovert is just as tough. An extrovert can’t stay at the same place for a longer period of time. Their adventure is the key to their art. They want to explore, discover places which are beautiful not only to look at but also to feel. They portray the best piece from the soul that was there, not the eyes that saw it.
It’s really difficult in this age to just go on an adventure. We have commitments. We have responsibilities. We have duties. I really don’t know what to say but the best thing would be do what is right. Previously, I mentioned, reality is an illusion, if you really don’t bother about it and just want to explore then, go ahead, only your soul has the right to stop you. But let me get this straight, don’t lose your respect and character during this.
People who are friends with such people, please find joy in what they do, they’ll love it. Adventure is an amazing sport for them, so, head out with them for a journey for a day or two. You’ll learn a lot since life is all about the journey. But, trust them. Trust their instincts if they are confident about it.

I really don’t know, how I covered psychology in this, but being an artist is really tough. But that’s the key. If art were easy, it would not be art. On the contrary, art is easy if you trust your soul. Let it flow. Journey is going to be tough, don’t give up. Start it and everything will fall into place.

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If you want to be loved, then do what sells. If you want to be a legend, do what your soul tells.

I hope you learned something from this. Do let me know what your views are on this in the comment section below. I’ll be back with another inspiring post, until then LIVE yOUR LIFE.

P.S.: You can also read one of my previous post where I conducted a survey what would happen if there wasn’t art and why it is necessary from the link below:
Life without Art!