Dead leaves on the ground, chilly and breezy wind felt my face as I walked across some of my mates.
The whole group was shouting and laughing, being a human, curiosity filled a part of my brain.
A seemingly weak kid was being ridiculed on and picked upon; he unwillingly had a face, with an awkward smile on.
None could see that pain, that kid was going through just to join in on the fun.
Why would someone do that? I started to ponder.
But, everyone would call me a stupid for searching that answer.
All started to make sense as I observed the scene,
All that kid wanted was to be a part of a team.
Though for many, funny it may seem,
This is a reality, everyone chooses to overlook
Your manliness is judged, if you can’t handle, weak in their eyes you look.
As the group left, the kid was all left alone,
He tried to keep himself busy, but couldn’t concentrate, reasons still unknown.
He looked here and there, yet unable to pass the time,
He kept a face that was similar to a dead guy.
Nobody from that group could recognize the damage they caused and all they would do is deny.
I waited to figure out why he had gone through with that pain without any complain.
And I could see, all he wanted was to be accepted as a social person,
Being an introvert, he knew not how to act in front of people.
Being an artist, he knew not how to converse on useless topics.
Being a novice, all he knew was society considered someone to be of value, when somebody gives you respect or when you are a part of a so called well-reputed group.
The torture he had to go through to lock up his soul,
The silent screams he had to make, when he had to forgo his talents,
The strength he had to gather to lose his self-respect.
All that hurting just to cope up with some reckless bullying.
When will this society stand up against this terrorizing activity!
All they do is give it respect and make it grow.
I say, it is time we stand up and rise against this frightening activity which is still hidden inside many.
And give those bullies what they truly deserve.
Choose your company wisely.
Supporting a bully is worse than being one.
Laughing on that kid, is the worst thing one can do,
All he needs a little help to achieve his dreams.
Humanity means standing up for someone, not ridiculing them for fun.
Bullying is the use of force, threat or coercion to abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate others or in simple terms; it is just use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force them to do something. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power, which distinguishes bullying from conflict.
There are many types of bullying. If you are a person with authority, please be aware of these.
“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing
Individual bullying tactics can be perpetrated by a single person against a target or targets.
This is any bullying that hurts someone’s body or damages their possessions. Stealing, shoving, hitting, fighting, and destroying property all are types of physical bullying.
This is any bullying that is conducted by speaking. Calling names, spreading rumors, threatening somebody, and making fun of others are all forms of verbal bullying. Verbal bullying is one of the most common types of bullying. In verbal bullying the main weapon the bully uses is their voice.
This is any bullying that is done with the intent to hurt somebody’s reputation or social standing which can also link in with the techniques included in physical and verbal bullying. Relational Bullying is a form of bullying common amongst youth. Unlike physical bullying which is obvious, relational bullying is not overt and can continue for a long time without being noticed.
Cyber bullying is the use of technology to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target another person. When an adult is involved, it may meet the definition of cyber-harassment or cyberstalking, a crime that can have legal consequences and involve jail time. This includes email, instant messaging, social networking sites (such as Facebook), text messages, and cell phones.
Collective bullying tactics are employed by more than one individual against a target or targets.
Mobbing refers to the bullying of an individual by a group, in any context, such as a family, peer group, school, workplace, neighborhood, community, or online. When it occurs as emotional abuse in the workplace, such as “ganging up” by co-workers, subordinates or superiors, to force someone out of the workplace through rumor, innuendo, intimidation, humiliation, discrediting, and isolation.
Mona O’Moore of the Anti-Bullying Centre at Trinity College in Dublin, has written, “There is a growing body of research which indicates that individuals, whether child or adult, who are persistently subjected to abusive behavior are at risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide”. Those who have been the targets of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low self-esteem and increased susceptibility to illness. Bullying has also been shown to cause maladjustment in young children, and targets of bullying who were also bullies themselves exhibit even greater social difficulties.
“They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you worship a different version of their God. They will hate you if you are spiritual. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. They will hate you when they see you happy. Heck, they will hate you while they post prayers and religious quotes on Pinterest and Facebook. They just hate. However, remember this: They hate you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you.”
― Shannon L. Alder
It is a major attributer for suicides and unwanted violence among many people. To know more, you can visit the following links:
Over 3.2 million students are victims of bullying each year.
Approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day because of bullying.
17% of American students report being bullied 2 to 3 times a month or more within a school semester. Take a stand in your community by hosting a Bullying Policy Makeover event customizing your school’s anti-bullying policy.
1 in 4 teachers see nothing wrong with bullying and will only intervene 4% of the time.
By age 14 less than 30% of boys and 40% of girls will talk to their peers about bullying.
Over 67% of students believe that schools respond poorly to bullying, with a high percentage of students believing that adult help is infrequent and ineffective.
As boys age they are less and less likely to feel sympathy for victims of bullying. In fact they are more likely to add to the problem than solve it.
Have you ever been knocked down so hard,
You were afraid to get back up?
Have you ever been betrayed so bad,
You were afraid to trust ever again?
Have you ever been backstabbed so harsh,
You were afraid to look back on them?
Have you ever lost something you love,
You despised to hear the word “love” ever again?
Have you ever been tortured like hell,
You had to give up who you were?
But, that is life.
There would be millions like you who suffer the same amount of pain you feel, but their cause is different. Every day you would wake up in the hope that today, everything will change, everything will be alright, idly sitting there and waiting for a miracle to happen, but guess what, it won’t.
Life is tough, it will squeeze you before you can taste what stuff out there feels like, only because you can learn to appreciate it.
I do believe miracles happen, but it ain’t gonna happen to you unless you fight for yourselves and for what you truly believe in.
If life were easy, then every other guy would just live life for oneself and that is not good. Because, every species on this planet, including you and this whole planet, matters, everything matters. A complete stranger, writing this post to you could be a reason why you matter.
I don’t know how hard/amazing your life has been, but let me tell you, you have a lot more to see.
You being alive, is a greatest gift you can ever receive, because believe me, even if the whole world gives up on you, God will always be there for you. Your parents will stand for you.
You are still alive and no matter how stupid this may seem, I believe in it:
“When everyone is against you; that is when you’ll need yourself the most.”
Love yourself to the point where you forget what love is because:
“You are your own worst enemy and your own greatest ally.”
You want to fight out in the world for what’s right, I bet that is not good, because first fight for what’s right inside you. Fight for the good in you and the good is what you shall see.
Love yourself and give yourself a good time.
“Peace outside can only be achieved when there’s peace inside.”
I’ve stressed a lot about this but you cannot be successful if “YOU” are not satisfied.
So love yourself and love your life and eventually you’ll LIVE yOUR LIFE.
Let me know your views on this post in the comments section below and don’t forget to share it to your loved ones if you love it. I’ll be back with yet another amazing post, until then, BeLive in yourself and LIVE yOUR LIFE.
Caution: Before you read this post, make sure you have an empty mind and before you judge this post, make sure you read it till the end. Better yet, just cherish it.
I think it has been a weird mistake to have people with their own music careers going on and judging people because when they’re too critical, it affects them. They don’t want to be that honest, because they need to keep their appearance up.
~Neil Patrick Harris
Remember the time, when you were a kid?
The tensions and worries you had were senseless to an adult.
What if I told you, the worries you have now are, well, senseless to everyone around you?
Every person has his/her own worries consuming them. They might check on you now and then if they love you or care for you, but that doesn’t mean you have to stick to their support.
You have your own life, why does it suddenly become important for a human being to care for someone or look into some other person’s life.
One could say, “Everything is connected.” So, it becomes a need then. Wanting to know every part of others life has become a need today, which has led to the high success rate of social networking websites. We, as a human have habituated with giving more interest on others’ life, status that we have forgotten about us.
I’m not asking you to be selfish. I just ask you, if you are so concerned about others life, why do you spread hatred when they achieve or at least try to achieve something.
Stop judging their works if they did not ask you to do so. Some may have habituated in ignoring others opinion, but there are tons of people who have given up their hopes, their dreams just because of the people who judged them.
Success in life takes time. Happiness can occur anytime, but it is unto you. Start spreading love. If you can’t support them, then at least, get out of their way.
You may be a professional in what you do, but never underestimate and tease a beginner for his/her lousy performance. You were a beginner once too.
People in grief need someone to walk with them without judging them.
It’s all about the perspective. One really cannot determine what the other person has gone through to get where he/she is or the reason one can’t do that work. It could have been a piece of cake for you to do that work. It could be a piece of cake for an athlete to run a 100m, but that becomes a hectic task for a guy whose health is bad.
Stop judging the capabilities of individuals and start believing in them. We got here through team work not through individual hatred.
Start living. Stop hating.
People are always judging you based on where you’re from, where you went to school, how you look, how you talk. But at the end of the day, you’re going to have to look into the mirror and accept who you are. It’s all about being authentic.
Will be back with another amazing post until then spread love and let me know your views on this in the comment section below and just LIVE yOUR LIFE and Believe!